11 months of Adventure!!!

Wow, i can not believe that my Little Luca is going to be a year old next month!

although i cant say it hasn't felt like 7 years have passed by and taken its toll on my twenty something body making it feel rather like a thirty some thing's body!
What a ride, i am enjoying being a mother more than i thought was possible, it seems to be the little things that make it so enjoyable...the first word (not mama) 'sad face', the crawling and now the pulling up on any thing that stands still for more than 3 seconds!!! it seems to be one big surprise after the other and waking up at 2am because the first tooth is refusing to just push through with out making a fuss, all of this is worth every second.To watch our little ones grow up into little people is a wonder that only the best of us can manage!

We started going to a mommy and baby class a few months back, i must admit i was a bit hesitant about what it would be like after having been warned that its really just a place were mothers make other mothers feel bad about the milestones your baby hasn't reached yet, but no it is fantastic! Luca really enjoys herself and on some day's she even screams in dismay that we have left! Of course there is the bonus of having a support group of mom's with the same age kids going through the same issues as you and i have made some real friends! we now get together weekly and chat each others ears off about what the week had thrown at us and how we proudly survived it relatively unharmed :)

I have added some pics below of some of our adventures... hope you enjoy!

The other topic i wanted to chat about was the big debate about do you make the birthday cake or do you have it made for the first birthday! WHY is this topic so widely discussed? is it not the choice of the mother of the child that is in question??? yes i am having Luca's birthday cake made by some one else,does that make me a bad mother? the answer is no,it makes me a cleaver mother.this way i get to enjoy my child's birthday party just as much as every one else ,as i wont be running around trying to get the icing just the right colour! I do however think there is a limit to how much you spend on that birthday cake or decor, but once again it is the choice of the mother and if they can afford to have a birthday cake that cost's more than my monthly installments on my retirement fund than good for them! yes you do sense a hint of jealously in that statement (green face)!!!!

So i have decided to have Luca's cake made and I'm sure that it will look stunning and not make any one sick!Always a bonus when you have kids at the party!

Once again thanks for listening even if it is only my mother that reads this,LOL!

Till next time.......xxxxx

 

next week .......topic.

hey mom's,

next week i want to focus on post natal depression.

please send me all your info and experience's on this topic by Saturday the 30th of october.

thanks....chat then....

welcome to the world of mommy hood - OMG!!!

26/08/2010 - was the day it all changed! a trip to the hospital at 4am in the morning and my life changed for ever!!! Luca-Jean was born at 8:50am that morning and she was stunning,even with all the blood and vernix she had stuck to her cute little face.

My first reaction was OMG,i told the nurse that handed her to me to take her away and clean her.Not exactly the reaction of some one that has just given birth to a 3.48kg baby.But why not, why is it that as women we feel we need to have an instant bond with our kids and then beat ourselfs up for not being super mom from the get go.

Then came the ulitmate test of women hood,breast feeding......mmmm...first time she was put on my boob it was painless,i thought what were all the ladies going on about,all the stories i heard was only that of pain.There was a nurse that was so sweet and not shy about taking my boob in her hand like she would a stress ball and latching my baby like she was poping on a juice bottle lid.The second time i thought i was going to die...all i wanted was for nurse touchie touchie to let her grip go and undo the lid! STOP! i shouted at her,from that moment on breast feeding became a nightmare.My milk only came in on day five so Luca had to be bottle feed for the first five days,i still battled not because i had no milk but because it was so so sore,i remember sitting in the nursery with tears running down my water retentioned cheecks.A visit to baby city cured all that when i discovered the avent nipple caps,from then on breast feeding was a breeze but my battle had not completely been won.At 5 weeks my milk started drying up - the reason was that i was not looking after myself with no full time nanny or any family help i was on my own trying to balance being a mother,wife and a cleaner.I didn't have time to eat or drink.So no Food or water = no milk.i was beside myself,my plan was to breast feed for 6 months.

I have to give credit to my hubby,what a great help! Emotionally he was there 100% and he stayed up with me for the first few weeks,helped with feeding and changing nappies,i dont think i could of managed with out him.Let me just take this moment to say how i feel for those single moms out there who give all of them selfs for there little bundles, its really not easy.

Thus we come to the reason of why i wanted to start this blog,to connect with mom's out there and share advice,i find myself only having my mother to ask and lets face it times are differnt and it has been 26 years since she last had to change a nappy.

So dont be shy,share your birth experience with me and the issues you have had, but dont forget the most important thing your solutions.

Each week i will post a different problem and ask all you great mom's out there to share your advice.
i look forward to sharing my life with you and hope that together we can all become supermom's!

Till then,
twenty something mommy :)